Archive for the ‘Faith’ Category

Interviews (by Ramona)

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

I was reading my previous post about trusting God with Nat’s job search.  I look back and realize that God has helped me let go of my desires.  There is a faint ache from not getting what I wanted, but for the most part, I’m at a place where I just want Nat to get a job and be happy.

I was encouraged earlier this week by a friend when he e-mailed me the following in response to my numerous prayer requests about the job search at church:

Let me first say that Nat’s perseverance is to be commended.  A certain level of discouragement is quite normal for both of you because we all go into things like this with expectations and I have always believed that when our expectations are not met, the Lord is really at work.  So, as strange as it may sound, I see this as very exciting as it is an evidence that the Lord has something very specific for both of you and His timing is going to rule the day.

One thing is for sure: your appreciation for the job the Lord eventually provides for Nat will be so much more intense due to your having to wait and go through rejection along the way.  Had Nat gotten tons of offers or found his dream job in the first interview, I’m guessing that what God is doing in you and through you may not have been accomplished the way it is now.  Abraham and Sarah had to wait beyond what any of us would consider reasonable.  Joseph too had to wait years for his dreams to become a reality.  Many times, the Lord brings the most growth in us when we are waiting.  Be encouraged in His promises.

This e-mail was just a reminder for us to trust in the Lord completely and that it is He that will provide the job for us, and not by our own hands.  Yes, God has blessed Nat with success in his education, and yes, God has blessed Nat with intelligence, but ultimately, it is God who will open the doors to the place He would like us to go.  He will let Nat’s resume get to the right hands, peak interest in the managers, and give favor with his interviewers.  He will use the knowledge that He has given Nat at the interviews to help Him succeed.  We will just have to wait.  Hopefully, not as long as Abraham and Sarah for a son, or like Joseph to be reunited with his family.  :P

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On a slightly different tangent, Nat’s traveling has taken a toll on Sean.  When Nat was getting ready this morning, Sean kept saying over and over again, “Daddy no go to work!  Daddy no go to work!”.  Then, when Nat called from O’Hare, Sean said to him, “Daddy all done California?  Daddy all down interview?”  Soon, Sean, very soon!

As a side note, Sean says that Nat is going to “California” for all of his trips.  We think it’s because the first trip that was taken was to California, so all trips are California.  Speaking of all of Nat’s trips, I thought it would be fun to list all of Nat’s trips since March:  San Diego, Albuquerque, Boston (twice), Seattle (three times), Dallas, Hartford, Baltimore, and San Jose.  Eleven trips in four months.

We’ll all be happy when Nat’s done with all of his traveling.

Recuperating (by Ramona)

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

Some say that you need to take a vacation from your vacation, and that is so true for us, especially after traveling with kids.  We’ve been recuperating from our trip and trying to get back into the swing of things.  I’ve been feeling especially tired and have been having a hard time getting back into cooking and cleaning the house.  I’m almost back to 100%, but I probably won’t be until Nat finishes his traveling at the end of this coming up week.

Speaking of Nat, Nat deposited his thesis last week, so he is officially a doctor now!  He also finished up his conference paper, so that’s another burden lifted off Nat’s shoulder.  He was still pretty busy last week despite his accomplishments since he needed to fix his slides for a job talk that he’s giving tomorrow.  Nat is interviewing at a company in Maryland, and his interview consists of giving a job talk and getting grilled afterwards.  Fun, I know.  Nat comes home late tomorrow night, and they flies out on Wednesday for another interview on Thursday.  Hopefully, Nat will get an offer from one of these two interviews, because all we’ve heard so far is no.  It’s definitely been teaching us to trust in the Lord and His provision going through this job search.  Nat is definitely feeling more confident, and dare I say, excited about his job talk on Monday, and he’s feeling more relaxed about interviewing, and I think we can attribute that to the Lord.

To add to the “excitement” at our house, Jonas developed a fever on Friday, and it has gotten worse as the weekend has gone on.  We took him to the doctor today, and it seems like it’s nothing serious.  We just have to ride it out.  Hopefully, Jonas will feel better this afternoon.

Mother’s Day (by Ramona)

Sunday, May 9th, 2010

We didn’t celebrate Mother’s Day too much because we were pretty tired from a busy couple of days.  Nat, however, did get me a present – a picture frame with all the boys’ (include Nat’s) handprints.  It was a sweet gift, and we’ll have to find a picture of all the points to put in the frame.

Other than that, we just had a regular day.  We did have a baby dedication today for all the babies born in the past year at our church.  Each family had a chance to say something about their child, and an elder would pray blessings over that child.  Nat explained why we picked the name Jonas Aiden.  Jonas is a version of Jonah, which means dove in Hebrew.  We love the imagery of the Holy Spirit descending on Jesus like a dove when He was baptized as it is written in Matthew.  We found that Jonas was also Lithuanian for John, which means God is gracious.  Ironically, Sean also is a version of John; John in Irish.  Aiden means fiery, and Nat picked that over Austin because Jonas was more “fiery” in the womb than Sean.  Our prayer for Jonas was that he would be gentle and meek like a dove, but also passionate and on fire for the Lord.

Sean did give me a not so pleasant gift of disobedience today.  I’m not sure what got into Sean today.  We were definitely ready for bedtime today since we had a hard time relaxing  with a crazy Sean.  Hopefully, he’ll settle down tomorrow.  :P

Waiting Game (by Ramona)

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  ~1 Corinthians 13:4-5

These verses has been such a rebuke lately for me as we are waiting to see how things pan out with Nat’s job hunt.  I know that God will provide for our family and that the plans He has for our family will be good.  It is, however, difficult to trust in God’s timing when we are in the midst of job hunting.  We don’t know where we’re going to be or when a job might come around.

The main struggle I have been having is one of Nat’s interviews.  He interviewed on site.  The hiring manager wasn’t sure he would be a good fit so he setup a phone interview last week.  We have not heard any news yet.  It has been extremely hard for me to be patient and wait for them because this is the job that I want Nat to get, or at the least the company I want him to be working for.  I am really excited about the location, and Nat is excited about the work and the environment of the company.  I struggle with wondering if this excitement is from the Lord or our own desires.  We asked God to open doors and put on our hearts a location, and I feel that we can read this as an answer to prayer except for the not getting an offer part.  It’s hard for me to see why we’d get so excited about a place and things look like they’re going to work out, but they don’t.  I would like the company to get back to us and just let us know so that we can have closure.

I know the Lord is trying to teach us to trust in Him and to be patient, but it is very difficult.  It is hard for me not to have closure right now and to be patient.  I get angry that the manager hasn’t gotten back to us, but that is not showing love.  I am envious that a lot of our friends have offers and know where they’re going, but our future is still unknown.

Nat has responded much better than I have.  He is being very patient and not placing his hope on this one job.  He is still applying and interviewing for jobs until he gets an offer.  He is comforting me and telling me that everything will be alright.  I know it will be, but the waiting is very tough.  Patience is not my strong suit.

A friend was worried that we were hanging our hope on this one job.  To be honest, I am hoping and praying very hard for this job.  But, I know that my hope is not on any earthly thing, but in Christ.  Christ has reconciled us to God, the Father, through His blood.  By His blood, we are forgiven for our sins and can be in union with God.  This is our ultimate hope, and we know that.  Because of our faith in Christ and knowing that God will be faithful to us, we will submit to Him and where He would want us to go.  Yes, I would like it to be this one place, but if He calls us to go someplace else, we will go.  I might not be happy or excited, but I will go.

I was no excited to come to Illinois.  In fact, UIUC was my LAST choice of all the graduate schools that I was accepted into.  I kept praying for God to reveal His will to me, hoping it would lead to the other schools.  It was unclear for a long time until I heard our collegiate pastor preach the Sunday before I had to decide.  He said that he doesn’t know what God’s will for our lives, but sometimes you can know if it’s something that you know that you will have to trust and rely on God and step outside of your comfort zone.  As soon as that was said, I knew I was going to Illinois.  I could not believe that I would be going to the placed where I cried when I visited, but I submitted to God.  And God did amazing things in my life these past 8 years.  It was hard the first few years, and God stretched and grew me, through tears and loneliness.  But, He has also blessed me.  I have a wonderful husband, two beautiful boys, great friends, and a great church.  So, if He calls us to someplace where I don’t want to be, I will submit.  He has blessed so richly at our times here, and I know it will be no different in this next stage.

Godly Husband (by Ramona)

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

The people that you love the most can hurt you the most, even when they don’t mean to.  I say this because Nat and I got into a “fight” this past weekend.  Our fight was a reminder how we are all sinful, and that I am married to imperfect man.  Nat is going to let me down, hurt my feelings, and break my heart at times.  But, I have hope because I believe in Jesus Christ.  Jesus will never let me down, hurt my feelings, or break my heart.  He is perfect and I can cling to Him.  He will sustain me, love me, and carry me through hurtful times in my life.  He is my ultimate bridegroom and I am His bride, and He will present me perfect and blameless in God’s sight because I have placed my faith in Him and that He has died for my sins and reconciled me to God.  Nat also has hope because he has placed His faith in Christ.  Christ will help lead him to be the husband that He is called to.  And when Nat fails, we can still rejoice together as husband and wife that we can place our hope in Christ who will never fail us.

Christ has made such a difference in our marriage.  It is He who has brought us through so many arguments and fights and helped us find reconciliation.  He has worked in our hearts to come to a place where we can humble ourselves to each other even though we may be sad, hurt, mad, and defensive.  In humbling ourselves, we can listen, repent for the ways we have wronged each other, ask for forgiveness, grant forgiveness, and be reconciled.  It is such a testimony of God’s power and how the Holy Spirit transforms us.  For me, I know that if I was left to my own devices, I would just bottle up everything inside, run away, and be bitter.  But God has done amazing things in my heart to lead me to want to reconcile with Nat, even when we have a bad fight.  And I must say, being reconciled to one another is so healing for our marriage and has made our marriage stronger.  Jesus is so good to help our hearts to get to that place where we can reconcile.  I can’t help but PRAISE GOD for how He is in the middle of our marriage and our hearts, even if we aren’t always submitting and obeying the Lord!

I also want to PRAISE THE LORD for Nat.  He is such a wonderful husband.  It is evident each time we have a fight.  Most of the time, the fights are a result of my feelings getting hurt.  I am thankful that Nat listens to me and how I’m feeling.  He may get defensive, but he listens.  Nat also humbles himself and admits to the wrongdoing he has committed.  He asks for forgiveness and is repentant.  It’s so amazing that Nat does this.  It brings tears to my eyes of how God brings Nat to the place where he is repentant and asks for forgiveness.

With this recent fight, I was just feeling unappreciated and unloved as a wife and mother.  Nat’s been under a lot of stress with presentations, interviews, and trying to finish up.  I didn’t realize this was happening until it built up and exploded.  I explained to Nat how I was feeling while he was still in Massachusetts.  Nat thought and prayed about it, and he realized that he had been focusing so much on his stress that he was neglecting me and our family.  It was so amazing to just have Nat verbalize what was happening with him and coming to this realization.  It was touching to have Nat tell me and apologize and seek my forgiveness.  I loved how Nat decided to fast and turn to the Lord in prayer to take steps to heal our relationship.  I was so grateful that Nat agreed that I needed to take time off and gave me a day and a half to relax while he watched the boys.  Seeing Nat’s reaction of humbleness, accepting fault, seeking forgiveness, and serving me showed me how much God is working in him to be a better husband and brother in Christ.  It it such a testimony to see how God can change hearts and attitudes when we have Christ in our lives.  I cannot do anything but give praise and glory to God for what He has done through our fight, in both Nat’s heart and my heart.  Thank you Lord!

Easter (by Ramona)

Monday, April 5th, 2010

We hadn’t been thinking too much about Easter until late last week because our lives have been so busy with Nat traveling.  We decided that it would be nice for each of the boys to get a basket and for Sean to have an Easter egg hunt at home.  We also decided that we should read the Easter story with the boys so that they can understand what Easter is all about.

This year we watched The Miracle Maker, a movie about Jesus’ life and ministry.  We started watching on Saturday night.  When Sean saw Jesus, he would point to the screen and say “Jesus”.  Sean got tired of watching on Saturday, so we finished the movie on Sunday morning.

Sunday morning, when Sean woke up, we let him open the things in his Easter basket.  He didn’t get any candy, but he got bubbles, a card, sidewalk chalk, a duck stuffed animal, and a Clifford the Big Red Dog DVD.  After opening up his basket, we started his Easter egg hunt.  We had hid the eggs the night before*. We led Sean around the living room and kitchen to help find the eggs.  He caught on to the idea of finding the eggs.  :)   We had to give him some hints, but he got a lot of the eggs by himself.  When he collected all the eggs, he sat down and opened them.  The smaller eggs had fruit snacks, and the bigger eggs had Matchbox cars (courtesy of grandma and grandpa).

We all got dressed for Easter and took some pictures.  Then, we headed to church for Easter breakfast.  We thought breakfast started at 9:30, but it really started at 9AM.  Fortunately, there was plenty of food for us to eat.  Nat graciously volunteered to take Jonas home after breakfast for his nap while I stayed for service.

After service, I headed home with Sean and we waited for Jonas to wake up.  After he woke up, we headed to the F’s for Easter dinner.  The F’s have had us over for Easter dinner since before Sean was born.  The F’s invited some other friends from church for dinner.  We had a great time of enjoying great food and company.  :)   The children had a great time running around.

After dinner, we headed home to put the boys down for a nap (or rest time for Sean).  We fed Sean dinner (Nat and I were still pretty food), and headed over to see the S family.  Then we headed home, put the boys to bed and relaxed the rest of the evening.  It was a good day.

* Nat said the rule was that they had to be visible.

April 4, 2010

Time

Activity

Notes

2:40AM

Wake up

Cried, quiet (we dozed), went back to sleep at 4:20

5:40AM

Feed

8:15AM

Wake up

10:30AM

Put down

Talked

10:40AM

Sleep

12:25AM

Wake up

3:00PM

Put down

Fussed a little (went to fried’s for easter dinner)

3:10PM

Sleep

4:30PM

Wake up

7:00PM

Bedtime

Put down at 7, fussed a little

7:15PM

sleep

Prayer (by Ramona)

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

I’ve been thinking a lot about prayer lately, specifically the purpose of prayer.  I know that praying is a good thing, and I know that there is power in prayer.  Let me start with a verse that I have thought about with regards to prayer in John 15:5-7:

I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.

Verse 7 (bold) is the key point that I have been thinking about.  It would be easy to take the second half of the verse and think, “If I just pray in Jesus’ name, I will get what I want”, but that’s not true.  The first portion of the verse is key, “If you remain in me and my words”.  I looked up a great commentary on this verse, and it says the following:

Once again Jesus promises the disciples that they may ask whatever they will, and it will be done for them. This recalls 14:13-14, where the disciples were promised that if they asked anything in Jesus name it would be done for them. The two thoughts are really quite similar, since here it is conditioned upon the disciples’ remaining in Jesus and his words remaining in them. …. the first phrase relates to the genuineness of their relationship with Jesus. The second phrase relates to their obedience. When both of these qualifications are met, the disciples would in fact be asking in Jesus name and therefore according to his will.

The key point that struck me is that when you have a relationship with Christ and are abiding in Him, then when you ask in Jesus’ name you will be asking according to His will and He will grant those requests.

Now, back to my thoughts/struggle with the idea of prayer.  I know I have a relationship with Christ because I have acknowledged my need for Him to save my from my sins instead of trying to save myself.  I also know that I am sinful, so I am not always obedient to God.  With these two ideas in mind, I struggle with the idea of asking for specific requests and God answering those requests.  I know that God can answer all prayers for He is the Creator of all things, so nothing is too difficult for Him.  I know that God does care about the details of our lives as well.  But, it’s still hard for me to believe that a specific prayer request will be answered, especially when it’s not clear if it’s God’s will.  For instance, I have been praying over the past few nights that Jonas would sleep longer at night.  With the exception of last night, Jonas did not sleep longer.  I believe that God is more than capable of making Jonas sleep longer, but He didn’t.

After thinking about the idea of prayer for specific requests for awhile, I realize that I should and can continue to pray to God about specific requests, but change my expectation of how they will be answered.  God is not a geni that grants my every wish.  God, however, is trustworthy and good, and how He answers my prayers will be according to His plans and will.  When I don’t get things the way I want, instead of not believing in the power of prayer, I can use those opportunities to examine my heart and seek to be obedient to Him.  So, going back to my example of praying for Jonas’ longer sleep at night, I have thought about the purpose of my wanting him to sleep longer.  1)  I’m tired and exhausted, 2) I’m also wanting to be selfish and in control; I don’t want my life to be dictated by an individual, 3) I want to put Jonas in a box and be the “normal” baby that gets sleep training after a few days, and 4) I don’t like failure.  Reasons 2) – 4) are rooted selfishness.  Though I have asked for longer sleep and “bargained” with God that if I sleep longer (I’ll be a better mom and less tired and exhausted),  I have realized that in the unanswered prayer, I have had to let go of control and my desires and trust God to the situation.  I know that trusting in God is a prayer that will be answered.

In dealing with this struggle about specific prayers, it has changed my prayer life.  I have been praying for the power of the Gospel to impact me more, which I know that God will answer.  I have been giving more focus on God’s character in my prayer.  I think that this has helped me focus more on God and understanding Him.  I still pray for specific requests, but I am learning more to trust God in how He answers them.

The second thought that I have been thinking about/struggling about is the purpose of prayer I know that God is sovereign and His will cannot be thwarted or changed.  What I pray is not going to change God’s will or plan, though sometimes I feel that I approach prayer that way.  So, if His will and plans will not be changed, what’s the purpose of praying?  I have come to the conclusion that it’s not for God that I pray, but for me.  When I pray, I acknowledge God as the sovereign Creator and the overseer or all things.  I acknowledge my relationship with Him and my need for Him.  Prayer also is a way that I seek to try to abide in Jesus and ask that my heart would be changed to be more obedient.  And, I know that seeking to be more obedient to Christ is a request that will be answered by Christ and one that brings God glory.  I am fairly confident that requests that seek God’s glory and being in union with Christ are the requests that will always be granted by God.